Jimmy has gone to California against Jacoby's wishes. How will they make their marriage work thousands of miles apart? How will Jimmy handle himself when old feelings surface? Can they make this work?
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Prologue
I held Jacoby tight, knowing that soon he had to walk through security and head back to Iowa. I was determined to make this moment last as long as possible. He held me just as tight and I sensed that perhaps he didn’t want to leave.
“Call me as soon as you get to the farm,” I instructed, as we finally pulled apart. The month had gone far too quickly and I wanted him to stay. I knew he had a job to go back to, but what about me? “I want to know you made it home safely.”
“I will,” he promised, kissing me deeply. We parted once again and then he was gone, making his way through security to his gate.
I hung my head and walked with my sister Kelly back to my truck. She wrapped an arm around my waist and rubbed my side, trying to comfort me. But there was no comforting me, as I caught a glimpse of couples here and there. They were holding hands, smiling, and laughing, together. Thousands of miles, five states, and a gulf of mistrust separated my husband and me. I don’t know if we were ever going to get over this.
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Jacoby called me around suppertime to let me know he was safely at the farm. We talked for a few minutes and then it was time to hang up. He needed to get to bed and I needed supper. Mom and dad were out tonight, so I was on my own. Mom had been giving me cooking lessons, since I couldn’t survive on take out and frozen pizza once I got to the house, and I decided to put those lessons to use.
Ironically (or perhaps not) her first instruction was not to burn the house down. This may or may not stem from the amount of times I’ve burned something in my attempts to cook. I can burn water. I decided to make lasagna, since that’s fairly simple. I got out mom’s recipe book she made for me and put some noodles on to boil. Then, I got the ground beef browned, seasoned, and sauced. So far, this was going well.
I assembled it per instructions and then popped it in the oven. Now, all I had to was wait and see if I had managed to make lasagna without any instructions from my mother. I retreated to the back deck, watching as the late evening sun made its slow journey across the sky. I loved California year round but there was something extra special about the summer time. It’s hotter than hell, but there’s rarely any humidity and I currently have my own private stretch of beach, complete with privacy fence all the way down to the water. I don’t know how I lived in Iowa so many years without it. Even when I get to the acreage out here, I’ll be a half hour drive into town to get to mom and dad’s, so I’ll still have that private stretch of beach.
I went in to check the lasagna and was pleased to see that it hadn’t burnt yet. I checked the recipe card and according the card, it was done. I got some oven mitts and pulled it out, grabbing a plate and a fork and a knife. Once I had a piece of my food, I grabbed some bread and butter and a glass of water and returned to the deck.
As I was sitting there, though, it struck me: this is going to be my life until Jacoby makes up his mind. It might be my life forever. If Jacoby decides that he just can’t leave Creighton (and I wouldn’t blame him), I’ll be married but living alone for the rest of my life. I can live without him in the short term, but I don't know about the long term. I’m stable now, thanks to therapy and new medications, but again, can I do this for the long term?
I slowly ate my supper, trying to imagine life without Jacoby. Right now, it’s not so bad, because he hasn’t made a final decision yet. But what if this does all work out and then he divorces me? After all, I took the permanent, full time position because I wanted to stay out here. Iowa is bad luck for me, Creighton wouldn’t want me back, so what else was I supposed to do? Keep collecting unemployment until it ran out and hope something opened up in Omaha or elsewhere? I couldn’t do that, because I wasn’t happy.
I finished eating, then pushed my plate away. I was worried now, because Jacoby had decided to wait me out. He wanted to see how things were going one year on, and while I agreed verbally with him, my heart was crushed; didn’t he trust me anymore? I thought we had that trust thing patched up, but now I’m starting to wonder.
With a sigh I took my dishes inside and put them in the dishwasher. I needed time to think and mull things over, so I went upstairs and changed into my trunks. The ocean was always relaxing to me and I think it’s time for a swim. I grabbed a small raft from the corner of my room and went down to the ocean with it. I managed to get on the slippery plastic surface and laid there, gazing up into the sky. One hand lazily kept me from floating away at sea, though the thought was an intriguing one.
I don’t know how long I floated there, just thinking. I was pondering what I would do without Jacoby, how I would go on without him. What if he wanted a divorce or just refused to move out here with me? I don’t want to be married but separated by thousands of miles. I know that I got myself into this mess, but this is truly for the best. It’s the best thing for my sanity, for my marriage and for Jacoby’s sanity. I’ve been out here now going on two months and not one meltdown has happened. Jacoby and I had a little argument while he was here, but that was all and we resolved it as soon as it was over.
I know I sound like I’m trying to convince myself, but I’m not. I know that this is for the best and I did the right thing. I’m just waiting on Jacoby to realize the same thing and get out here. I can tolerate his wait a year strategy, but I won’t tolerate it forever. Either he comes out here or he doesn’t, but I won’t be going back. I miss Iowa and the farm and my friends, but my moods are more stable out here.
“Jimmy?” a voice called, and I startled, falling into the water. When I surfaced, holding onto my little plastic raft, my mother was standing on the shoreline, smiling. “Are you coming in? It’s after midnight.”
How had it gotten so late? The sun was still up when I had supper, and I’d missed the setting. I swam ashore and brought my little raft in, looking not unlike a drowned rat. Mom walked with me and asked what I was doing out on the water so late.
“Just thinking,” I said, as we walked through the grass and up to the deck. “Mulling over my marriage, mostly.”
“Everything will work out,” she said, hugging me. We walked up the deck and into the house. I shivered as a blast of cold air from the air conditioner hit me. “It worked out last time, right?”
“Sort of,” I said, shrugging. The gesture hurt and I looked down to see my stomach and shoulders were burnt. I’d had worse sunburns but this bugger hurt worse for some reason. “It worked out in that I was put back on meds and now I’m out here and he’s back home. I don’t see how it worked out, I guess.”
She sat me down at the dining room table and started to rummage through a cupboard in the kitchen. I stood up when she pulled out the can of Solarcane spray and allowed her to coat my sunburn with the soothing spray. I sat back down and accepted a glass of water from her.
“Look,” she started, smiling. “That’s all in the past, okay? You and I worked out our differences over you not taking your meds all that time. I know you’re taking them now because I still trust you. While Jacoby was here, I spoke with him. You’d gone to bed early and he and I were the only ones still awake. He confessed that he’s conflicted about the situation and doesn’t really know what to do. He doesn’t want to leave Iowa for the simple fact that he’s established there and has been for the last 12 years. It’s hard to just pack up and leave that, especially in this economy. Jobs are scarce, even out here, so he’s wise to stay where he is until things get better.”
“But what about me? I didn’t do this lightly. I looked for jobs back home first, talked it over with countless people, including Dr. Mathias and my therapist. It’s not like I just packed up and left. I’m giving him his year to decide, but I wish he’d see that he needs to be out here with me.”
“And in time, he will,” she said, but I shook my head. “He will. But you have to remember that he’s still got a stable job up there, Jim. He can’t just leave that and hope that he finds something out here that works. For you, it was easier, because you were terminated. I know that’s not the way you wanted to go out, but it’s what happened. Jacoby has not been fired, so for him, it makes no sense to give up stability to come out here.”
I sighed, rubbing my hands over my face. Sometimes, I don’t know if it’s that people don’t understand me or I don’t understand what they’re telling me. I can see where mom’s coming from, but isn’t that what a marriage is about, sticking it out together? Shouldn’t we be together no matter what? In all fairness, it was because of Jacoby that I landed work in Omaha and ended up living in Iowa. I wanted to go back to California, but he didn’t. He said he didn’t want to live in paradise any longer, and that Iowa was good enough for him. We compromised and I stayed, with the understanding that eventually, we could come back here.
“What will I do if he doesn’t want to come back?” I asked, realizing my face was burnt as well. How the hell a setting sun could burn me like this was beyond me. Work was going to be so much fun tomorrow. “He said when we were first married and I finished my first round of training that he didn’t want to come back to California. I did, but I decided to stay with him. The compromise was that, eventually, we’d come back here. Don’t you think turnabout is fair play?”
“I only wish it were that easy,” she counseled, and I sighed. How could it be so hard? “Jimmy, what worked 12 years ago does not always work 12 years later. You guys were young, newlywed, and not established in your jobs. It didn’t matter where you went. But now things are different. Jacoby is settled in his job and his home. He’s a little miffed, really, that you came out here. When he heard the job was provisionary, he got excited, until you took the full time offering.”
“Yeah, we had a fight about that,” I admitted, twirling the saltshaker. “But I still don’t see why he’s upset. I know we’d agreed at one time that coming out here was all wrong, but now I see that coming here was right.”
“For you. He’s still struggling with his decision. I think Iowa is right for him and California is right for you. He told me about how he’d miss Iowa and he can’t see giving up what you guys have out there just to pack up and come here. I know that you’ve told him over and over that you can have your award winning gardens and such, but it takes time to get reestablished. You’ll have your amazing gardens here, Jim, but it will be a while before they win awards.”
I sighed, unwilling to admit that she was right. I missed my husband, and I think if he came here he’d be happy. He’d be closer to his family and he’d be closer to me. Isn’t that what’s important?
“I guess it’s going to be a battle for a while,” I said, and mom nodded, standing. She kissed the top of my head and wished me goodnight. It was two in the morning back home, so calling Jacoby was out the question; he probably had to work in the morning anyway. I know Brian had to work tonight, and everyone else had to work in the morning, myself included. I decided to head to bed, after putting some lasagna and a slice of bread in for my lunch tomorrow. I only hoped I could sleep.
***
I didn’t sleep well last night. I went to bed around 0030 and fell in and out of sleep from 0100 until it was time to get up at 0500. Needless to say, my boss took one look at me, handed me coffee, and told me to work inside today. I could not fly like this and I’d be worthless on the ambulance crew. I accepted the duty without complaint, and set to work checking patients in. UC Irvine’s ER is very busy, since they’re a trauma center, so we get a lot more activity than Creighton.
By the time I crawled in my truck 12 hours later I was exhausted. It was going to be a long drive to mom and dad’s, and I know my boss, Karen, was worried about me. I assured her I’d driven home on less sleep before, but she was still worried. I set out for home, making sure to drive carefully, and I made it. I pulled into the driveway and leaned my head on the steering wheel, wondering what I should do about Jacoby.
I hate to dwell on things, but it really does need to be concluded soon, you know? Are we divorcing, living separately, what are we doing? I closed my eyes, in desperate need of sleep, and tried to get my brain to shut off for a moment. I had to work again tomorrow and I can’t be grounded two days in a row. My passion lies in flying and it sucks when I can’t be up in the air helping people.
“Jimmy?”
This was getting to be an irritating pattern. My mother was once again calling for me, after I’d failed to come into the house in a reasonable time. I loved my mother, but couldn’t a guy just get some time to think to himself?
“Yeah?” I asked, still half asleep.
“Come to bed,” she said, opening the truck door. She gently pulled me out, taking my keys and lunch bag. “I’ll make your lunch for tomorrow, you go on up to bed.”
I didn’t even ask what time it was, just trudged up the stairs. I didn’t get to the changing part, because I was asleep before my head hit the pillow. The only thought on my mind continued, however, to be my marriage and the overarching question: is it over?