Let me tell you how much it sucks being sick. I’m burning up PTO that I’ve saved for our vacation home this summer, and it’s going to be hard to earn it back. I mean, I’ll get my hours and all once I get back, but I’ll be short this check and that’s going to sting a little. I’m feeling slightly better now than yesterday, but not much. I’m sure it’s one part stress and one part lack of sleep from worry.
I could smell breakfast going on downstairs and I thought about joining them. I decided that if I could get through a walk to the bathroom, a shower, and getting dressed, I’d join them. I got to the bathroom, did what needed done, then made it back as far as the bed. No shower, no getting dressed, just getting back to bed. I felt like I was freezing one minute and burning hot the next. Jimmy was being kept quarantined from me, because of his lungs; he catches everything he’s exposed to, almost, and he didn’t need to be down with this.
I wanted to be there for Jimmy the most right now, at the start of his therapy. It was hard to be down when he was going through hell. I know he’ll find his ways to cope, but I still feel bad that I can’t be there for him right now. Mom assures me that it’s better if he has less people ‘there for him’, but I still feel bad. He’s my husband and despite all of our recent fighting, I still love him.
With a sigh, I rolled over and went to sleep, hoping I’d feel better when I woke up. I wanted to talk to Jimmy, once again, about rescheduling our anniversary, even though we’ve missed it by almost a month at this point. January 10th was our anniversary and if my addled brain had counted right, it’d be around the end of the first week of February. Jimmy’s birthday would be coming up on the ninth, and maybe we could celebrate our anniversary the day after.
I don’t recall falling asleep or how long I slept, but as hoped, I felt better when I woke up. I was sweating to beat hell, and sat up in bed just as my mother came in to check on me. She went to get the thermometer and stuck it in my left ear. There was a mechanical click, then a short beep and she smiled.
“Your fever broke,” she announced and I nodded.
“I feel a lot better,” I said, getting out of bed. “I’m going to go shower. Is Jimmy at his appointment yet?”
“He went this morning and is already back,” she said, starting to strip the bedding. “You can talk to him after your shower. Are you hungry?”
“I am, actually,” I said, entering the bathroom. I stripped off and started warming the shower, ready to be rid of whatever illness had plagued me for the last 24 hours. I had been scheduled off today, but was supposed to work tomorrow and would like to get back.
After my shower, I actually felt like getting dressed and looking decent for a change. Once I was ready, mom took me downstairs and got some toast and cereal ready to go. It was best to start easy even if I hadn’t had any stomach upset during this stretch. As I sat and ate, I heard Jimmy’s office door open and he soon came and sat with me at the table.
“How are you feeling?” he asked, smiling at me.
“Much better. My fever broke, so I should be able to go back to work tomorrow,” I said, smiling. His face fell and I sighed. “I’m sorry.”
“Just be glad you can work. I miss my chopper,” he said, and his voice was heavy with sadness.
“I hear through the grapevine that your chopper misses you, too,” I said, taking his hand. “You’ll get back to it. You seem to be in a pretty good mood for having been to a session.”
“I’ve got a new counselor,” he said, and his smile returned. “She won’t touch my routines for a few sessions yet. She’ll work on them a little bit through our talks, but she’s getting to the bottom of them before she eliminates them. Then, when we do start working on getting rid of them, she’s going to go one at a time, starting with a flexible routine and working up to the big ones.”
“That’s great,” I said, smiling. I finished my breakfast and sat back in my chair. “I’m glad you’ve found someone who’s going to work out for you.”
“Me, too. I have your mom to thank,” he said, looking out the kitchen window. It was snowing lightly, and I sighed. This winter needed to end, because Jimmy’s been hard to deal with. Thanks to the events that lead to his near death, he not only battles PTSD but depression as well. I could see a difference in him this morning, though and I said as much.
“Could be the Paxil,” he said, looking contemplative. “I’ve been on it a couple of weeks now, so it might be getting started, finally.”
“I hope it works for you,” I said. I wasn’t sure why I felt compelled to say something then, but I did. It’s kind of like the feeling you get when someone passes away; you feel the need to say something just for the sake of having said it.
Jimmy nodded and smiled, but I knew that underneath his happiness was a man in a panic.
***
The next few days were somewhat peaceful, amazingly. Jimmy went to his appointments and came back a little less panicked each time. I asked him what he wanted to do for his birthday and he said a quiet affair at home was fine. His folks were here; my mom and his sisters were still here, so that was what he wanted to do. His sisters and my mom would have to leave in a few days, so he wanted to spend as much time as possible with them.
I helped plan the meal for his birthday, making sure he had everything that would make him happy. Two nights before his birthday, he and I were lying in bed and I decided to broach the sensitive subject of our anniversary.
“Uhm,” I started, rolling over to look at him. “I don’t know if I should even be asking this but I wondered if, on the 10th, you might want to, you know, reschedule? I have the 9th, 10th, and 11th, off.”
Jimmy was quiet for a long moment and I swallowed the lump rising in my throat. He’d been making progress, according to a report from his therapist. Jimmy had authorized his family and me to receive progress reports and after just a week of sessions, he was already making good progress. Routines would be allowed to continue for a few more weeks, and then slowly dissolved. Just as I was thinking he’d resumed his angry silence at me, he turned over and sighed.
“I’m sorry,” he started, and I was glad it was dark. He wouldn’t see the angry frown on my face at his rejection, once again, of our anniversary celebration. “I’m sorry for the way I’ve been acting. I talked with Karen for a long time while she salvaged what was left of my hair and she said her daughter is having a hard time right now as well. She made a good point: I need to decide what’s more important: you or my routines. The answer is clear, of course, that you are more important to me.”
I was feeling less angry now, and wrapped an arm around him as he continued, nuzzling his neck.
“So, in answer to your question: yes, I would love to reschedule.”
“Really?” I asked, surprised and confused. “You’re willing to reschedule?”
“I am,” he said, and I heard his pillow rustle as he nodded his head. “I’ve been talking to friends, too, and I’ve come to the conclusion that I was a fool last month. I know I acted out of anger and panic, but I was also acting foolish. Our 10th is a onetime occurrence. I realize we’ve missed it by a long, angry month, but I’m willing to reschedule it.”
“We’ll do that on the 10th, then,” I said, smiling broadly. “We’ll do exactly what we had planned, too. We’ll visit our places and people, take in a show and a meal, and then come home and make your parents wish the bedroom was sound proof.”
“Do we have to wait?” he asked suggestively and I grabbed him into a kiss he’d never forget. It had been over a month without intimacy, and I wasn’t going to lose my chance.
***
The next morning, I woke with Jimmy still wrapped in my arms. I smiled, wishing I didn’t have to work today. But it was time to get up and moving and I carefully extracted myself from his grasp. I was exhausted, since an early night had turned into a somewhat late one. I dragged myself through my shower, then got dressed in my uniform. I had almost made it out the door without waking Jimmy when his voice came from the darkness.
“Have a good day at work,” he said, and I went to his side off the bed. I leaned down and kissed him.
“I will. Good luck with therapy today,” I said, hugging him. “I love you.”
“I love you, too,” he responded, as I stood up again and headed for work.
The drive in was as dull as ever, considering it was dark out. I was looking forward to the few days before daylight savings time when it would be light in the mornings. I took the exit for Creighton and wound my way through the streets of Omaha, filled with early morning commuters. The streets would be three times as crowded in another hour, when the morning rush hit.
Once I’d parked, I made my way across the snow-packed parking lot and into the ER. I clocked in and put my coat and other things in my locker, then loaded my pockets. With Jimmy’s recent moods, we had both been leaving scissors and other such things at work as a precaution. By the time I had everything I needed, it was time to get my assignment for the day. I couldn’t wait until my paramedic course was finished; I had managed to keep up with the course work during Jimmy’s recent problems. I just wanted to be done for the fact that I could do more at work and get a much needed pay raise.
“Morning, Coby,” Anthony called, waving. I returned the gesture and nodded at him. “It’s you and me today. ER’s quiet now, but we’ve had warm enough temps that people are out pushing snow. We haven’t seen a few frequent fliers in a bit, so be prepared for a busy one.”
“That and everyone will forget about the refreeze, so we’ll have early morning accidents, too,” I pointed out, as the departing night EMTs came over. The morning shift gathered with steaming cups of coffee and we got report. Finally, we told the night shift to sleep well and got to work. This morning, work was mostly standing around, twiddling our thumbs.
“How’s Jimmy coming?” Sean asked, coming out of his office with stacks of papers in hand. “I’ve got the March schedule, guys, be sure to check your days. I put Jimmy down for his usual full time hours, so if that needs to change, let me know.”
“Thanks. He got a new therapist, and he’s doing better. She’s not tackling routines for a few weeks yet, but she’s getting him to talk, which is important,” I said, sipping at my go-juice. Coffee was truly nectar from the Gods. “He’s also on medication and it’s starting to slowly kick in. The change of seasons will help, of course, and I think he’s going to be okay. He’s not happy about having the month off, though. He’s using the PTO he’d saved for our vacation this summer.”
Sean frowned; he knew how important our summer trip home was and knew that we’d been saving like crazy to go. With Jimmy’s hospital bills, though, and therapy, we weren’t going to go.
“I’m sorry,” he said, looking at the schedule. “I didn’t even think…it’s just that I knew he needed the time off.”
“It’s okay. With his recent hospital stay and the therapy, we’re probably not going to be going anyway,” I said, shaking my head. “Family is here now, so this will have to do. I know Dr. Mathias wanted to get us out there, but that won’t be possible now.”
“If that changes, let me know,” Sean said, and I nodded. I wasn’t too upset, since everyone was here now, but I knew that Jimmy could easily have another horrible meltdown at the realization that we wouldn’t be able to afford our vacation this summer.
“How’s Jimmy going to take that news?” Anthony asked, sitting behind the nurse’s station. He leaned back in the blue chair and stretched.
“I don’t know. The doctor sent home Ativan boluses, but we haven’t used them yet. I suppose I should have one on standby when I mention this. We haven’t gotten the bill yet, but it’s coming. I checked with the business office and it’s been submitted to insurance, so we’ll see.”
“I’m sure it won’t be cheap. He was on psych, and they’ll charge for the Ativan, the number of days, the counseling, and any other meds he got. That’s not going to be cheap. Plus, the ongoing counseling isn’t cheap, either,” Hollister said, joining the pair. “I hope you can still go on vacation, Coby.”
“Me, too,” I said, with a sigh. “If not, I don’t know if Jimmy’s stable enough to handle not going.”
“Can his family help him go out there or break the news to him?”
“I’m going to do some number crunching with HR first,” I said, thinking that Hollister had a good idea. “He’ll earn the PTO back by July, that’s not a problem. It’s the money that’s the problem. I don’t want to ask his parents for money since they’d been good enough to come out here for this.”
“Talk to them,” Anthony said, as his pager sounded, my following a few seconds later. There was an accident five blocks from here, and they needed multiple ambulances. The day shift mobilized and we all headed out to our first call of the day.
I climbed into the back with Anthony as Mark, a new team member, got into the driver’s seat. The short drive gave me time to think and I decided that it couldn’t hurt to at least talk to Jimmy's family before I broke the news to him of our canceled vacation. At least, I hoped it wouldn’t hurt.